It’s been almost 5 months since I quit my job as a preschool teacher to be a stay-at-home mom. Although this was always my plan, I’d be lying if I said the transition hasn’t been an adjustment for me. I’ve been working full-time ever since I graduated from college. My job was always such a huge part of my life. It gave me a sense of pride knowing that I was good at what I did. It also gave me a place to go socialize with my co-workers and get out of the house every day. The friends I made through work became a huge support system for me.
After Jack was born and I became a mom, it did get hard to balance the 2 worlds. Even though I had decent work hours and lots of time off, I was still struggling to balance it all, especially as Jack got older. It was last fall when Jack was really sick with an ear infection and croup and I had just used up all my PTO days at work when my husband and I made the decision that I would quit my job at the end of the school year. Having a sick kid and not being able to be with them has to be the hardest thing to go through as a working parent. You feel guilty that you can’t be with your child, but you also don’t want to disappoint your employer or let the people down at work, but when you are at work, you can’t perform your job correctly because you are too worried about your sick child. It was always a struggle for me.
Now that I’m officially home, I will say that I love the flexibility that I have in my schedule. My situation is a little different than most stay-at-home moms. My husband doesn’t work a typical 9-5 job as an airline pilot. His schedule changes month to month, which makes it hard to keep a routine. I also only have one child at the moment and he’s in preschool full time. We felt that it would be best to keep him in his routine of going to school every day since he has been in daycare since he was 7 weeks old. Yet I still have the ability to keep him home with me or pick him up early when needed. It’s been really nice.
I did have a fear that I would be bored being a stay-at-home mom, but that has not been the case at all. I find that there is always something that needs to be done around the house, always a room that needs to be cleaned, meals that need to be cooked and I go to the grocery store all the time. I also have more time to dedicate to blogging, which has been nice. My problem with all of this is staying on task. It takes a lot of self-discipline for me to stay productive. I often feel that if I’m not working on something, I’m lazy and I hate that feeling.
Today I want to share some tips that have helped me transition from a working mom life to stay-at-home mom life.
1.) Wake up early
2.) Keep a schedule
3.) Use a planner
5.) Use a timer
6.) Stay off social media
7.) Set goals
8.) Keep in touch with friends
When I worked, I had friends and people to socialize with. My fear of being home was that I would lose that. Since I’ve been home, I’ve been trying to stay in touch with my friends. I text with my friends from college who are also home and I socialize through my blog. It’s hard being new to town, because I don’t know anyone, but I’m trying to reach out and meet new people. Having friends and people you can connect with is so important as a woman and especially as a mom.
9.) Take time for yourself
10.) Don’t compare yourself to others
You seem so happy. Though I've always worked full-time, I did have one semester off to just finish off my masters and be mom. It was probably my favorite period of time. My girls went to school and so did I but when they got home I was all mom. No school and no work, just mom. It sounds like you are finding your way around and as long as it works for you, then it's perfect.
Thank you! I am enjoying being home and less stressed, but it will still take some time to get use to not going to work everyday. I'm finding my way though!